*Pidato Michele Obama ini, mungkin*
*perlu juga untuk kita renungkan Pasangan .*
A post by Michelle Obama. Every couple should read....
HARDCORE TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE!!
Sebuah post dari Michelle Obama, yg baik utk dibaca setiap pasangan Suami Istri
1. There is nothing that threatens the security of a wife than the thought of another woman competing for the attention and affection of her husband. Nothing is more painful. Nothing is more disrespecting. Nothing is more insulting. Nothing is more belittling and degrading.
*Tidak ada yg lebih menakutkan seorang istri dari pemikiran adanya wanita lain yg bersaing utk perhatian dan kasih sayang dari sang suami. Tak ada yg lebih menyakitkan, tidak menghargai, memalukan, mengecilkan hati dan merendahkan daripada itu.*
2. Marriage flourishes when the couple works together as a team; when both husband and wife decide that winning together is more important than keeping score.
Good marriages don't just happen. They are a product of hard work.
*Rumah tangga berkembang dg baik bila pasangan bekerja sama. Ketika suami istti memutuskan bahwa kemenangan bersama lebih penting dari saling mengalahkan. Rumah tangga yg baik tidak terjadi begitu saja, tapi adalah hasil dari kerja keras.*
3. Your children are watching you and forming lasting opinions on love, commitment, and marriage based on what they see in you. Give them hope. Make them look forward to marriage.
*Anak2mu mengamatimu dan membentuk pandangan ttg cinta kasih, tanggungjawab dan pernikahan, dari apa yg mereka lihat. Beri mrk harapan. Tunjukkan bahwa pernikahan dan rumah tangga adalah sesuatu yg hrs dinantinantikan.*
4. Husbands: The reason why other women look attractive is because someone is taking good care of them. Grass is always green where it is watered. Instead of drooling over the green grass on the other side of the fence, work on yours and water it regularly. Any man can admire a beautiful woman, but it takes a true gentleman to make his woman admirable and beautiful.
*Bagi suami; wanita lain tampak menarik krn ada yg nerawat mrk. Sesuatu yg dirawat itu pasti indah. Drpd ngiler lihat yg lain, rawatlah apa yg kau punya. Semua lelaki bisa mengagumi wanita lain, tapi hanya lelaki sejati yg bisa membuat istri (merasa) cantik dan dikagumi.*
5. When a husband puts his wife first above everyone and everything except God, it gives his wife the sense of security and honor that every wife hungers for.
*Bila suami mendahulukan istri diatas apapun (kecuali Tuhan), itu memberi istri perasaan aman dan dihargai, yg sangat didambakan setiap istri.*
6. A successful marriage doesn't require a big house, a perfect spouse, a million dollars or an expensive car. You can have all the above and still have a miserable marriage. A successful marriage requires honesty, undying commitment and selfless love at the center of it all.
*Rumah tangga yg baik tidak memerlukan rumah bagus, pasangan yg sempurna, mobil mewah dan harta berlimpah. Org bisa saja punya semua itu tapi tetap tidak bahagia. Yg utama adalah kejujuran, tanggung jawab utk bersama selamanya dan kasih sayang yg tdk mengutamakan diri sendiri.*
7. Pray for your spouse every day; in the morning, in the afternoon and at evening. Don't wait until there is a problem. Don't wait until there is an affair. Don't wait until something bad happens. Don't wait until your spouse is tempted. Shield your spouse with prayer and cover your marriage with the fence of prayer.
*Doakan pasanganmu setiap saat, pagi siang dan malam hari. Jangan tunggu sampai ada masalah, ada perselingkuhan, dan ada sesuatu buruk terjadi. Lindungi pasanganmu dan rumah tanggamu dengan DOA.*
8. The people you surround yourself with have a lot of influence on your marriage. Friends can build or break your marriage; choose them wisely.
*Org2 di sekelilingmu punya peranan penting dlm rumah tanggamu. Seorang teman bisa membangun atau menghancurkannya, pilihlah teman dg bijaksana.*
9. One spouse cannot build a marriage alone when the other spouse is committed to destroying it. Marriage works when both husband and wife work together as a team to build their marriage.
*Rumah tangga yg baik tidak bisa dibangun oleh suami atau istri saja, dimana pasangannya berusaha menghancurkannya. Suami dan istri hrs bekerja sama membangun pernikahan yg baik.*
10. Don't take your spouse for granted. Don't take advantage of your spouse's meekness and goodness. Don't mistake your spouse's loyalty for desperation. Don't misuse or abuse your spouse's trust. You may end up regretting after losing someone that meant so much to you.
*Jangan pernah mengabaikan pasanganmu dan memanfaatkan kebaikannya. Kesetiaan pasanganmu jangan diartikan keputus asaan. Jangan menyalahgunakan kepercayaan pasangan, krn akan berakibat penyesalan setelah kehilangan seseorang yg sangat berarti bagimu.*
11. Beware of marital advice from single people. Regardless of how sincere their advice may sound, most of it is theoretical and not derived from real life experiences. If you really need Godly advice, seek it from God-fearing, impartial and prayerful mature couples whose resolve has been tested by time and shaped by trials.
*Waspada lah dg nasihat pernikahan dari seseorang yg masih single. Setulus apapun itu hanya berdasarkan teori dan bukan pengalaman hidup. Kalau perlu nasihat, carilah dari pasangan yg matang, yang telah membangun rumah tangganya dg penuh doa dan ketawaan pada Tuhan, yg telah teruji oleh waktu dan berbagai cobaan.*
12. Dear couple, Don't underestimate the power of the tongue on your marriage. The tongue has the power to crush your marriage or build it up. Don't let the Devil use your tongue to kill your spouse's image, self-confidence and aspirations.
Use your tongue to build up your marriage and bless and praise your spouse.
*Bagi suami dan istri; jangan meremehkan peranan lidah dlm rumah tangga. Apa yg kau katakan bisa menghancurkannya atau membangunnya. Jangan gunakan lidahmu utk menghancurkan image (gambaran), kepercayaan diri, dan aspirasi (keinginan) dari pasangan. Gunakanlah utk membangun rumah tanggamu, utk memuji.*
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